I have a confession to make: Mr J does not like chocolate.
Now I can’t recall divulging that information here in the past, but yes… the boy does not enjoy chocolates, desserts, or anything sweet for that matter. He can happily tuck in a 1 kg full rack ribs, or a dinner of rice and fried fish, but he won’t touch chocolates (unless they’re Ferrero Rochers – that’s the only chocolate he’ll eat).
So for his recent birthday lunch held at his parent’s house, his mum requested I make him a cake instead of buying one. I happily obliged, until I realised all the cakes I’ve done in the past were chocolate-based. He also has a cousin who has a nut allergy so that pretty much narrowed down my options. I was in a cake dilemma for a few days, until I couldn’t take it anymore and just blatantly asked him:
“What do you want as your birthday cake?”.
You see, communication is really the key to a relationship (I know I know… I should really listen to my own relationship advice). Because had I asked him that earlier, I would’ve saved myself from the stress and worrying. He just simply and quickly said, “Carrot cake”. With no walnuts of course, which was fine with me.

So, I went to my most favourite recipe website in the whole World Wide Web, Exclusively Food, and knew then that their carrot cake recipe would be superb. And I wasn’t wrong. I had to omit a few ingredients off the recipe to cater for the allergies in the family, and also for my own preference. I also did something a little bit naughty – I doubled the amount of cream cheese frosting because that was how good it was. And yes – I put double the amount in the cake. Fantastic!

Carrot Cake
Recipe adapted from Exclusively Food
Makes about 10-12 servings
Cake
2/3 cup canola oil
2 eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla essence
2 carrots, peeled and finely grated
1 1/2 cups caster sugar
1 1/2 plain flour
1 1/4 teaspoons bicarbonate of soda
- Pre-heat oven to 180 deg C. Grease and line a 20 cm baking tin with baking paper.
- In a large bowl, stir oil, eggs, vanilla, grated carrots, and sugar together. Set aside
- Sift flour and bicarbonate of soda together. Add to the wet ingredients and combine well.
- Pour mix on to prepared pan and bake for 55-65 minutes or until skewer comes out clean.
- Remove from the oven, and set aside to cool for 5 minutes. Remove from baking tin and remove the baking paper. Frost as desired.
Cream Cheese Frosting
120g cream cheese, room temperature
1 tbsp butter, softened
2 1/2 cups icing sugar
2 tsp lemon juice
- Beat cream cheese and butter together.
- Add lemon juice.
- Add icing sugar, one cup at a time. Beat well together and frost cake as desired.

The candles and “Happy Birthday” topper courtesy of Mr J’s mum, which I was grateful for because I was just clearly having a very bad day of decorating the cake. I just couldn’t think of how else to decorate it, and out she came with the topper. It didn’t matter much though… the cake was a hit with the aunts, uncles, cousins and everyone else polished off their slices within minutes. And apparently the best thing about it all? The generous amount of oh so good cream cheese frosting. Oh yes!
Happy 2o-something birthday, my dear Mr J.






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